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December 26, 2017 – 12:52 pm | No Comment

This Week 7’s (12.14 – 12.31) Affirmation: Mindfulness – I will reach for mindfulness each day.
Date – 12.26.17
B-Book 44: Do the Work by Steven Pressfield
The key message in this book: Often we stop dead in our tracks …

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Break-up Story

July 17, 2022 – 5:27 pm | No Comment
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Married or not you should read this…
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. …

Why You Shouldn’t Tell Your Child to Have a Plan B

June 4, 2021 – 7:57 pm | No Comment
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My father gave me two pieces of advice when I was very young. First, never dig a pile of dirt from the middle. (Shovel at the bottom, so the dirt falls into the blade.) And …

What to do in your 20s to avoid regrets in your 30s and 40s?

June 6, 2020 – 8:00 pm | No Comment
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1. Don’t make a belief about “living in the moment.” Either do not trust that purchasing new bags, shoes, or clothes can give you extra points, yet don’t think it is cool to squander. Before …

How can you identify intelligent people?

May 1, 2020 – 1:04 pm | No Comment
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Really like this list – lifted from Quora by Kelly Duncan:

Intelligent people do not like to gossip, they like talking about idea and innovations. Hence, they cannot just be friends with everybody. Average people sometimes …

What are some ugly truths of life?

April 22, 2020 – 3:10 pm | No Comment
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I just love this list that I lifted from Quora – written by Jasmin Mous, 

Evil exists. There are people who have chosen to destroy everything and everyone that comes into their way.
Empathy is NOT a …

Do not weep for your dead: how to mourn as the Stoics did

August 24, 2018 – 12:04 am | No Comment
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Imagine you are at a child’s funeral. The child is yours. The air is numb with silence. An ache so deep you can barely breathe moves through you, until it bursts and you cry out …

Why Training Your Mind Is the Most Important Priority in Life

May 8, 2018 – 10:17 pm | No Comment
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A young, but earnest, martial arts student asked his new teacher: “I am devoted to studying your martial system. How long will it take me to master it?”
The teacher replied casually: “Ten years.”
The student wanted …

Is meditating on death like putting on a fur coat in summer?

March 30, 2018 – 4:39 pm | No Comment
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Memento mori – invitations to reflect on our own mortality – have been common throughout history. Two ancient traditions that made reflection on death central to their paths are Buddhism and Stoicism. For both, the …

Dread accompanies me through life but it is not without consolation

February 21, 2018 – 2:37 pm | No Comment
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One morning, my father died at home. I awoke to a call for help – my name shouted once, loudly, desperately, fearfully, by my mother – ran into my parents’ bedroom, and found my father …

As a dying person, what is your advice to the living? – Quora

January 24, 2018 – 10:17 am | No Comment
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I have far more I’d like to say on this topic than can be contained in a single post. So I will summarize my top five here and do follow-up articles on each of the …

Lessons in family management from a Roman of noble birth

January 12, 2017 – 11:50 pm | No Comment
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Raising a family is the most important duty a man has. Without children the state has no future, and if those children are not brought up properly then that future is bleak. When there is …

There’s no emotion we ought to think harder about than anger

December 25, 2016 – 2:42 pm | No Comment
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There’s no emotion we ought to think harder and more clearly about than anger. Anger greets most of us every day – in our personal relationships, in the workplace, on the highway, on airline trips …

Black America Is Leaving While Staying Put

July 19, 2016 – 5:10 am | No Comment
Calls For Reforms In Wake Of Police Shooting Death Continue In Chicago

Jimmie Williams joins demonstrators in a protest outside of City Hall calling on Mayor Rahm Emanuel to resign on December 11, 2015 in Chicago, Illinois. A recently released video of the shooting of Laquan McDonald …

Can Parents Really Be Friends With Their Kids?

June 25, 2016 – 6:25 pm | No Comment
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Two very different relationships that overlap in complicated ways.
Like coloring books or meals composed entirely of vegetables, befriending one’s parents is something that, by early adulthood, seems to take on a new sheen of coolness. …

The Impact of Absent Fathers on the Mental Health of Black Boys

January 15, 2016 – 3:29 pm | No Comment
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Studies show that sons in fatherless households have the highest odds of being incarcerated, have higher levels of behavioral problems and are more likely to be suspended from school.

Thabiti Boone grew up in a neighborhood …

At college drop-off weepfest, remember these three words

August 25, 2015 – 1:55 am | No Comment
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Parenting doesn’t stop at Freshman Week.
All across the United States, people are weeping. They are sobbing, sputtering, sniveling and mewling because they are in the process of saying goodbye to their little baby boy or …

According to the theory of evolution, why do we die? – Quora

August 5, 2015 – 1:32 pm | No Comment
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Excellent question. And before I explain the real answer, which is rather mind-bending, here are some previous arguments and why they are wrong.
Myth 1: We die to make room for younger generations.
Genes are selfish, …

What to the Slave Is the Fourth of July?”

July 3, 2015 – 10:40 pm | No Comment
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Mr. President, Friends and Fellow Citizens:
He who could address this audience without a quailing sensation, has stronger nerves than I have. I do not remember ever to have appeared as a speaker before any assembly …

The Lessons My Father Taught Me

June 22, 2015 – 4:18 am | No Comment
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We often talk about what kids miss when Dad isn’t present, but there’s a lot to learn from the fathers who are there. I learned much from mine.

There are few holidays that elicit a more …

When Death Comes Calling: 5 Things to Do After a Terminal Diagnosis

January 4, 2014 – 11:33 pm | No Comment

My husband was only 36 when we sat in the exam room and received the bad news we already knew was coming. The cancerous tumor in his esophagus had returned, and it would kill him.
“We …

Daniel Goldstein: The battle between your present and future self

December 21, 2013 – 4:45 pm | No Comment

Got this from one of my subscription – The Wealth Pilgrim. I found it to be so timely, coming now to the end of 2013.  It has caused me to reflect quite a bit on …

Woman – Beautiful Power

March 10, 2012 – 11:39 am | No Comment
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 Woman – the most beautful and powerful in all of creation! {Click Song Below}

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All the Very Best for 2012

January 1, 2012 – 1:20 am | No Comment
Happy New Year 2012

2011 was a pretty hard year, but hope a much better 2012.

Steve Jobs (1955-2011)

October 5, 2011 – 11:10 pm | No Comment
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“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.  Because almost  everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment …

9/11 – A Sad Day for the Luckiest Man Alive

September 11, 2011 – 10:31 pm | No Comment
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Today was a hard reflective day for me.  Went out with family for breakfast and then went to the beach at Naval Station Mayport to listen to the waves.
It has been 10 long years now …

Dangerous White Stereotypes

August 29, 2011 – 4:51 pm | No Comment
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One of the most noteworthy movies of the summer is “The Help.” Set in Jackson, Miss., in the early 1960s, it focuses on the relationships between white upper-middle-class women and the black domestics who took …

5 Mistakes Parents Make With Teens and Tweens

August 6, 2011 – 11:49 am | No Comment
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Here are the top mistakes parents make with their teens and tweens, and how to avoid them.
Things aren’t the way they used to be. Your 12-year-old no longer comes to you first when she feels …

Denial of Death

August 29, 2009 – 3:32 am | No Comment

Started reading this book – Denial of Death by Ernest Becker last week and if by coincidence I found out about a buddy of mine – Dave that I wrote about in a previous post.  …