by Rupe | Aug 18, 2022 | Health-Wellness-Sex
Learn to identify self-criticism If you’re like many people, your self-criticism has become a deeply ingrained habit – it’s so automatic, you might not even realise you’re doing it.Yet recognising that you’ve fallen into self-criticism is the crucial first step in saving yourself from it and practising more self-compassion. As the psychiatrist Daniel Siegel puts it: ‘Name it to tame it.’ This step involves asking yourself questions that can help you understand your self-critical tendencies, rather than a
Source: How to be kinder to yourself | Psyche Guides
by Rupe | Jul 24, 2022 | Health-Wellness-Sex
The only thing that helps me focus is if I’m genuinely interested in what I’m doing.’ Sitting across my desk was Celia, a first-year undergraduate diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), who had attended my university’s ADHD summer camp when she was in middle school. As we caught up on the past five years of her life, she described how she’d felt unmotivated throughout her high-school years. Celia recalled her parents’ attempts to coax her interest in conventional subjects, such as mathematics and literature, without success. Looking down at her shoes, she described feeling left out and demoralized during her final year of high school when each of her friends had celebrated acceptances to rigorous universities.
There’s no doubt that adolescence can be incredibly challenging for girls and boys like Celia who have ADHD but, with sufficient support, they can thrive – as you’ll see when I return to Celia’s story later in this Guide.
Source: How to empower a teen with ADHD
by Rupe | Jul 17, 2022 | Inspiration, Reflections
Married or not you should read this…
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
Source: http://funnnyfunny.com/break-up-story/
My Comments: Did not expect the ending. Good stuff.
by Rupe | Jun 20, 2022 | Health-Wellness-Sex
When I first read Confucius, I was disappointed. He seemed like
a stick-in-the-mud, obsessed with enforcing the status quo. ‘As for music,’ he grumped to his disciples, ‘listen only to Shao and Wu. Prohibit the tunes of Zheng.’
This was the great sage of ancient China, who wandered the country lecturing disciples and rulers on how to live? Maybe his approach worked 2,500 years ago. But for me, in the 21st century? I preferred living freely like the iconoclastic Daoist sages who mocked Confucius.
Source: How to set yourself free with ritual | Psyche Guides
by Rupe | May 29, 2022 | Mad Musings
Whether you fear criticism, misjudge the passage of time, or get overwhelmed by the sheer size of your to-do list, procrastination is a problem that most with ADHD share. Learn three common reasons why we procrastinate, and try some of these great hacks to get started and to finish strong.
Source: ADHD Procrastination Strategies: Accomplish More, Feel Great
My Comment: This is simply awesome advice. I think I will be implementing some of them in the future. So much for getting held down by emails.
