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Break-up Story

Break-up Story

Married or not you should read this…

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

Source: https://funnnyfunny.com/break-up-story/

My Comments:  Did not expect the ending.  Good stuff.

Why You Shouldn’t Tell Your Child to Have a Plan B

My father gave me two pieces of advice when I was very young. First, never dig a pile of dirt from the middle. (Shovel at the bottom, so the dirt falls into the blade.) And second, always live in a ranch-style home. (So you can still get around all of it when you’re old).

I was not raised by my father. My parents divorced when I was an infant, leaving my mother to raise four sons by herself. That’s why his advice didn’t involve anything time-consuming or with multiple steps, like how to shave or barbecue rib

Source: Why You Shouldn’t Tell Your Child to Have a Plan B | LEVEL

My Comments:  Very interesting and insightful advice to parents.

What to do in your 20s to avoid regrets in your 30s and 40s?

1. Don't make a belief about "living in the moment." Either do not trust that purchasing new bags, shoes, or clothes can give you extra points, yet don't think it is cool to squander. Before the age of 30, you need to save money and accumulate assets for yourself. Cash is your fundamental courage and confidence when faced with difficulties.

 2. Hold the strongest desire to win and insist on self-improvement. If you go all out, you will have no regrets even if you fail.

 3. Learn to invest and manage money to make more benefits. After many years, you will find that although people who manage and people who do not manage may have the same income level, they have a significant gap. And this gap will have an increasing effect over time.

 4. Manage your time. After getting off work, spend two hours studying to improve yourself. In the long run, you will become significantly different from those who  spend hours watching soaps and playing games.

 5. Be prepared for change. In this era, no job will exist forever. The company wants to see the benefits. Once you cannot create benefits, you will be dismissed without exception. Learn to accumulate methods and resources so that you have core competitiveness. Even if you are layoff, you can feed yourself.

6. Don't let yourself stop for a long time. Once you get used to it, you will lose your ability to seek change, and you will eventually become a man abandoned by the 21st century.

7. Learn to accept yourself. Accept that you are imperfect. Let your advantages to glow and heat continually, and you will eventually become the best self.

8. Formal education will keep you busy for a lifetime, while self-education will keep you productive for a lifetime.

9. Your current situation is the result of your past. If you are not satisfied with your current situation, it may be that the past efforts are not enough. If you want to be happy with yourself, you should start with what you can do right now. And the only people who can change the status quo are ourselves. Even if you are conscious but don't take corrective action, then after five years, you may be more passive than now.

10. Curious about the world every day, tirelessly drawing knowledge from books and courses, especially willing to invest for your growth. Continue to invest in yourself and become a more valuable person.

11. Health is important. Staying up late when you are young will sooner or later turn into tears when you are old. After all, life is a marathon. It is good to run fast, but more importantly, it is better to run far.

12. Nowadays, information technology is so developed, with all kinds of temptations are emerging, and our time is easily eaten up by various mobile apps, games, and advertisements. Time black holes like Tik-Tok, if we are not careful, it will drain your time. Ask why you have done nothing? Because you haven't used your time well.

13. Life is short, follow your heart more, and do what you like. Follow your own heart, take your path, and be your protagonist.

14. It is easy to give up, but it must be cool to persevere. Life will fail people who work hard, but not people who work hard all the time. Be kind to yourself, and be cruel to yourself.

15. Reduce the amount of time for meaningless chatting and socializing. Devote more time to yourself, and gradually approach people who are close to your hobbies and views.

16. There are three most essential costs in life: time, health, and money. Every time you do something, ask yourself, what expenses do you have to pay, how much do you have to pay. This helps you judge whether a thing is worth doing.

17. Getting close to people who appreciate you and encourage you will give you motivation and courage. Stay away from the people who disappoint you and oppose you, because getting along with such people for a long time will consume your emotions excessively.

18. Find a way to make yourself happy, such as one or two small interests that can indulge yourself.

Lifted from Quora

How can you identify intelligent people?

Really like this list – lifted from Quora by Kelly Duncan:

  1. Intelligent people do not like to gossip, they like talking about idea and innovations. Hence, they cannot just be friends with everybody. Average people sometimes gossips, belittle and jealous a lot.
  2. Intelligent people are capable of having a conversation on different topics eg, Politics, world news, mathematics, just anything. They talk with facts and sometimes with exact dates. Average people just blah blah blah !!!
  3. They listen a lot and a lot, if you notice someone in a group sitting quietly at the corner and listening before making any contribution to the conversation, he or she is likely an intelligent person.
  4. They know the value of time, so they act on purpose and plan.
  5. They are prone to a migraine and other types of headaches because they worry a lot, they analyze intuitively.
  6. Intelligent people help other people grow in life, they are not afraid of you overtaking them. Their mission is entirely different.
  7. Intelligent people believe in continuous learning and self-development.
  8. Some of them might have some kind of boring life like not going to the nightclub, running after women (vice versa), watching TV etc. They engage themselves in activities that are profitable to their knowledge and they also practice ‘’Delayed gratification’’.
  9. They are quick to change. Average people do not want to get out of their comfort zone because of fear. Intelligent people get out of their comfort zone because they can easily adapt.
  10. Intelligent people do things differently, they do not follow the crowd. Unfortunately, many of us were raised to follow the crowd.
  11. Intelligent people are very creative.
  12. Intelligent people stay up late. They might be busy working on some projects or doing some findings.
  13. Ignorant people always assume that they are brilliant while intelligent people doubt their abilities, hence the reason why they learn more and more.
  14. People tend to see intelligent people as lazy people because they try to make difficult work easier.
  15. They have this curiosity in them, they ask questions a lot. They always want to know!! Know !! Know !! Hence, they are always open-minded.
  16. They usually have messy desks, they are not organized.
  17. They usually don’t believe in the social media of a thing. If they do, probably just for networking or moderately.
  18. Average people live to impress, intelligent people are just living their life. Your opinion about their lifestyle doesn’t matter.
  19. They are very humorous and happy. They connect with other people easily.
  20. While you carry your cell phone first when leaving the house, an intelligent person cares more about not forgetting his pen and a sheet of paper.

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What are some ugly truths of life?

I just love this list that I lifted from Quora – written by Jasmin Mous

  1. Evil exists. There are people who have chosen to destroy everything and everyone that comes into their way.
  2. Empathy is NOT a motto to live by. It is a skill for you and you only. If you live by being full of empathy for everyone it becomes a blind spot for people to use against you.
  3. If you stay too long anywhere, you usually end up wasting time without realizing. Job, relationship..
  4. People don’t want to hear the truth. They want to hear what sounds “good” and “reasonable”.
  5. Education makes a nation great. College is not overrated. When it is turned into a commodity then question the system and not the college experience.
  6. “Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school.”
  7. If you never go out of your comfort zones, you will stay very simple thinking you are very complex.
  8. Sometimes you do have to be the bigger one and no one will be there to applaud you for it.
  9. It takes courage not to offer confusion but solutions to this world.
  10. Contrary to popular belief vulnerability does not equal weakness. It equals strength.
  11. Manipulation is shunned yet everybody manipulates every day. Better to be aware than to ignore.
  12. Love does not hurt. Idealizing does.
  13. Nothing will get you through life like mental resilience can.
  14. Whether you believe in god, karma or pure consequences, this life will give you everything back you put in. Nothing more, nothing less.
  15. If you chase pleasure instead of pain, you will look back with regret. The easier route never leads to anything.

Do not weep for your dead: how to mourn as the Stoics did

Imagine you are at a child’s funeral. The child is yours. The air is numb with silence. An ache so deep you can barely breathe moves through you, until it bursts and you cry out loud. Somebody passes a tissue; another rests his hand on your shoulder.

In time, your eyes run out of tears. But now there is a hole in your heart in the shape of a child, and it feels like it will never heal. Maybe it shouldn’t, you think to yourself. You lost a child. This stays with you. It’s supposed to stay with you.

Source: Do not weep for your dead: how to mourn as the Stoics did
My Comments: Interesting piece on Stoicism.  Well worth the read.